Shhh…. Can you keep a secret?
October 10, 2008 · Posted in what to wear, escort cards, programs by rachel
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As we get closer and closer to our date (which is still 5 weeks away!), it seems like many of the decisions left to be made are kind of tedious… and stressful! What color of ribbon should I use on my cake? What print of paper for the programs? How should I arrange our tables, and what about the seating chart? You have much less free time to think about these things, and after months and months of planning - either you know exactly what you want, or you’re not as enthusiastic as you were at the beginning. It’s not that I don’t care anymore, I just think that I’m really going to enjoy de-stressing on the honeymoon!
Like I have said before - some of these wedding decisions are much more fun to make than others! So after discussing the programs and escort cards, and finding out how much it will cost us to make our exit via a horse-drawn carriage ride (which is ridiculous!!), I just wanted to look at some eye-candy. That’s when I saw them, again. Birdcage veils!
And that’s when I decided that I wanted to wear one! I’ve long admired them in pictures, thinking how cool they were, but I wasn’t sure if I could really pull one off. I’d even tried one on, and it looked pretty good, but then, there was this conversation:
Me “Hey sweetie, what do you think about this veil? Isn’t it cool?”
Him “Ugh, I can go out to the garage and get my fishing net if you want it.”
Me “What?”
Him “It looks like a fishing net, on her head.”
Me :-(
So I just thought they wouldn’t be for me. After the “fishing net” conversation I thought I just needed to stick to a traditional veil. Which is pretty. And I have one I can borrow, for free. But, I wasn’t just sold on it. I still kind of wondered. Well, after seeing the birdcage veils the other night, I wondered no more.
“So what?” I thought.
So what if he thinks it looks like a fishing net on my head! I like them, I think they’re interesting and pretty, and I want to wear one on my wedding day! (And I’m pretty sure that nobody at my wedding will compare me to a fishing net!)
So the secret was born. But not just from him, from everyone else except for one of my sisters (and now you, the readers of this blog!). I know my Mom thinks that they are nice (she was with me when I tried on one a couple months ago), so I’m not worried about that. I just think it’s a little fun to keep an element of surprise all to myself!
So, shhh…. it’s our secret!
All pictures, and my future birdcage veil, are from Birdcage Veils.com . Melody Ginn was very easy to talk with on the phone about what I was looking for and wanted, and I can’t wait to see the final product in a couple weeks!
Have a great weekend!
When I tried on a veil, it just made me feel too done. I was thinking about wearing a birdcage veil, but J made the same comment! Now, I might just have to think about it again!
I haven’t decided on my veil yet either. I want both! I just may be a two veil bride…lol.
I got my bc veil from Melody as well. Originally, I was nervous about the decision to wear one, but in hindsight, it may have been the best wedding related decision I made (well, except for the one where I said “Yes!”). I really loved the way my veil looked, and I got so many wonderful compliments on our wedding day. My husband never really saw the veil before our wedding day, and he just told me the other night how much he liked it, and how happy he was that I wore it rather than a traditional veil.
Not to be a party pooper, but you’re going to wear something on your wedding day that the groom has expressed dislike for? That he’s called, essentially, a fishing net? Why?! If you’re not making yourself look beautiful and pleasing to your future husband, who are you doing it for? Do you think that he’ll be pleasantly surprised and suddenly like it more than he did? It just doesn’t make a lot of sense to me. My husband’s opinion was the only one I cared about that day, and I would have worn a burlap sack down the aisle if he wanted me to.
OMG I SO feel you on getting burnt out by those tiny details. They’re awful! Planning the little things means you’re getting close, though!
I also changed my veil at the last moment. I am so glad I did!
Sara -
I really did take into consideration my fiancee’s feelings, but this wedding is for both of us. I wanted to look pretty for me. We both agreed in picking out our wardrobes, that I could pick out mine and he could pick out his. There are things he’s chosen that would not have been my choice - but he’s happy with them, so that’s all that matters.
He has no idea of the type/style/look of dress I’m wearing or the flower for my hair. He could easily not like any of them either.
Really, though, I do think he’ll like the veil once he sees it on me. He’s not really all that into fashion and has changed his mind before on such things!
Oh I am so excited!!! I am going to meet with her at Thanksgiving to design mine. I can’t wait to see how yours turns out!! You are going to be so fabulous. Don’t let your man give you a hard time. He doesn’t know how beautiful it is going to look until he actually sees it.
And the flower in your hair?!! LOVE IT!!! You are going to rock it!
Yeah, so what! It’s not like he’ll have to wear one too, so go on and make youself happy!! They are elegant, classic and absolutely timeless!
I couldn’t manage to find one for my wedding 4 years ago because nobody appreciates it from where i’m from :( Now that it’s easier to source even from Ebay, i made sure my friends and other bride to be don’t go through the same dilemma and regret as me!
I’m sure he’ll be blown away after he sees everything together!
I’m going to answer Sara and reassure Rachel. I’ve been married for 36 years and a wedding planner for 11 and have raised two sons, so I think I have a bit of experience with men and grooms. Rachel’s groom will 1. more than likely will not even remember he made that comment and 2. when he sees his bride walking down the aisle he will be overwhelmed no matter what she’s wearing. My wonderful husband thinks I look perfect without makeup , do I want to please him YES! do I leave the house without make up NO!!
Oh my, I completely agree with getting tired of details. I am just under three months from my wedding and am more and more thinking the simpler the better. The only bits I’m getting really excited about are my dress and veil. If I was having the right style wedding I’d definitely wear a birdcage veil, but for now I’m going traditional, well today I am anyway!
I thought That Groom would hate my birdcage. Granted, I didn’t wear it over my face, but it was still a poufy piece of netting. I think if I had showed it to him beforehand, he would have said he hated it. The day of though, she said I looked beautiful. I am sure your guy will end up doing the same thing :)
I’m an idiot! I followed the link to your dress fitting pictures from East Side and didn’t look at the date, so I thought they were brand new and I had missed that you had changed your mind to a birdcage!
Which, by the way, is fabulous and I completely agree with Pamela, your boy won’t even notice what you’re wearing on your head on the day, he will just be blown away by how stunning you are.
I’m sure the complete picture will blow him away. I’m so excited for you!
thank you so much for your kind words about the veils and the website etc. i love being a part of such a specail day and count it an honor to be on your blog.
Melody
