Comments on: Bridesmaid Blooper http://www.elizabethannedesigns.com/blog/2008/11/10/bridesmaid-blooper/ The wedding blog that is all about the details... Mon, 13 Feb 2012 12:20:42 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: Blair http://www.elizabethannedesigns.com/blog/2008/11/10/bridesmaid-blooper/#comment-14128 Blair Wed, 12 Nov 2008 01:02:53 +0000 http://www.elizabethannedesigns.com/blog/?p=4600#comment-14128 Thank you all for commenting! Just to clarify a few things 1) I would never ask any of my friends to spend a lot of money on a bridesmaid dress. My dresses ranged in price between $155.20-$177.60, which I felt was very reasonable. Also when asking some girls to switch there was never a big difference in price. 2) In terms of shoes I have not asked my girls to wear matching shoes, just something in the silver/grey family. 3) I also never would have forced a girl to wear a dress she didn't like. Usually they were torn between two dresses anyway, so I just encouraged them to go with their second option. I totally understand how people can get frustrated with being a bridesmaid and being told what to do. I had hoped to never end up doing it. In the end I learned I should have just been more up front from the begining. Thankfully it all worked out. Thank you all for commenting! Just to clarify a few things
1) I would never ask any of my friends to spend a lot of money on a bridesmaid dress. My dresses ranged in price between $155.20-$177.60, which I felt was very reasonable. Also when asking some girls to switch there was never a big difference in price.
2) In terms of shoes I have not asked my girls to wear matching shoes, just something in the silver/grey family.
3) I also never would have forced a girl to wear a dress she didn’t like. Usually they were torn between two dresses anyway, so I just encouraged them to go with their second option.

I totally understand how people can get frustrated with being a bridesmaid and being told what to do. I had hoped to never end up doing it. In the end I learned I should have just been more up front from the begining. Thankfully it all worked out.

]]> By: Rachel http://www.elizabethannedesigns.com/blog/2008/11/10/bridesmaid-blooper/#comment-14077 Rachel Tue, 11 Nov 2008 16:18:32 +0000 http://www.elizabethannedesigns.com/blog/?p=4600#comment-14077 Don't stress over what Kelly said... I went through the exact same thing as you. And I have only 4 bridesmaids. But it's ending up that 2 are going to be in one dress and 2 in another - all in the same color, which I'm fine with. But like you, I totally stressed over it. I stressed over the color because my sisters didn't like the original champagne color, and then orange wasn't a hit either (I'm now using navy blue). I stressed over style because originally my future SIL didn't want a shorter dress while everyone else did, AND both my sisters liked the same style of dress. I just think it's a stressful situation, and it's hard because yes, while you want your day to kind of represent what you have in mind, you also want to take into account your friends' and families' feelings as well. But I'm glad you got it all resolved!! :-) I decided to let them choose their own shoes in gold - whatever style they wanted - and they can wear their hair in any style they'd like. I want them to be comfortable and be themselves - as much as anyone can be in a bridesmaid dress! ;-) And yes, I'll admit, mine will probably not wear them again. But since I didn't want to use black dresses, and my future SIL is a larger plus size - it was difficult to find dresses that would all coordinate with each other, including hers. I chose very reasonably priced styles, so they did not have to spend too much. I felt that this was one of the most stressful decisions for me, so I'm glad that you have a resolution and can move on! I'm sure they'll all look wonderful. Don’t stress over what Kelly said…
I went through the exact same thing as you. And I have only 4 bridesmaids. But it’s ending up that 2 are going to be in one dress and 2 in another – all in the same color, which I’m fine with.
But like you, I totally stressed over it. I stressed over the color because my sisters didn’t like the original champagne color, and then orange wasn’t a hit either (I’m now using navy blue). I stressed over style because originally my future SIL didn’t want a shorter dress while everyone else did, AND both my sisters liked the same style of dress.
I just think it’s a stressful situation, and it’s hard because yes, while you want your day to kind of represent what you have in mind, you also want to take into account your friends’ and families’ feelings as well.
But I’m glad you got it all resolved!! :-)

I decided to let them choose their own shoes in gold – whatever style they wanted – and they can wear their hair in any style they’d like. I want them to be comfortable and be themselves – as much as anyone can be in a bridesmaid dress! ;-)
And yes, I’ll admit, mine will probably not wear them again. But since I didn’t want to use black dresses, and my future SIL is a larger plus size – it was difficult to find dresses that would all coordinate with each other, including hers. I chose very reasonably priced styles, so they did not have to spend too much.

I felt that this was one of the most stressful decisions for me, so I’m glad that you have a resolution and can move on! I’m sure they’ll all look wonderful.

]]> By: kelly http://www.elizabethannedesigns.com/blog/2008/11/10/bridesmaid-blooper/#comment-14034 kelly Tue, 11 Nov 2008 00:51:00 +0000 http://www.elizabethannedesigns.com/blog/?p=4600#comment-14034 It may be the bride's 'day' but does that mean your going to make girls fork over lots of $$ on a dress they don't like? Or one they will never wear again? Unless your paying for the dresses, and then I say whatever you want goes. But otherwise...this tradition seems so selfish and outdated. I ended up paying over a thousand bucks(dress, hair, makeup, shoes, alterations, plane tickets, hotel, gifts, plane ticket and hotel for bridal shower) to be a bridesmaid. And I didn't resent any of it until I was told I couldn't be in the bridal party if I didn't wear the shoes the bride wanted(even though they didnt fit me). Can't a bride enjoy the day with her friends without making them pay $$$ for things they will never use again? It may be the bride’s ‘day’ but does that mean your going to make girls fork over lots of $$ on a dress they don’t like? Or one they will never wear again? Unless your paying for the dresses, and then I say whatever you want goes. But otherwise…this tradition seems so selfish and outdated. I ended up paying over a thousand bucks(dress, hair, makeup, shoes, alterations, plane tickets, hotel, gifts, plane ticket and hotel for bridal shower) to be a bridesmaid. And I didn’t resent any of it until I was told I couldn’t be in the bridal party if I didn’t wear the shoes the bride wanted(even though they didnt fit me).

Can’t a bride enjoy the day with her friends without making them pay $$$ for things they will never use again?

]]> By: nicole http://www.elizabethannedesigns.com/blog/2008/11/10/bridesmaid-blooper/#comment-14033 nicole Tue, 11 Nov 2008 00:31:39 +0000 http://www.elizabethannedesigns.com/blog/?p=4600#comment-14033 same thing happened to me... luckily once they tried the favorite dress on only two liked it and two others went for another (albeit the same) style. same thing happened to me… luckily once they tried the favorite dress on only two liked it and two others went for another (albeit the same) style.

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