Lesson Learned - Things don’t always go as planned
June 9, 2009 · Posted in getting engaged, chicago by kasia
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I’ve come to grips with reality this week. My wedding day may NOT be perfect.
As I mentioned before, my fiancé proposed with a placeholder ring last January. At that time I was living in Africa and he didn’t feel comfortable traveling there with valuables. Fortunately, this enabled us to pick out the ring together when I got back to the States last spring - he picked the diamond, and I chose the setting. Our jeweler predicted the ring would take up to 2 months to complete and I recently overheard that the ring is ready! Hooray!
It couldn’t have come at a better time. It’s been nearly 5 months since we got engaged, but since both of us are live in different cities (he in NYC and me in DC) and most of our friends and families live in Chicago, we haven’t had a real acknowledgement/celebration of our engagement. Moreover, besides our mothers and brothers, our family members have yet to be introduced to one another. As a result, we decided to plan an engagement party this June 27th in Chicago. Not only will this enable our friends and families to meet and celebrate, but it will be the perfect place to show off my sparker (a vision I’ve been dreaming about for months). I’ve been growing out my nails, moisturizing my hands and trimming my cuticles all in preparation for the big unveiling.
So you can only imagine my reaction last Wednesday night as I was being rushed to the emergency room - for accidentally amputating the tippety-top of my pointer finger on my LEFT hand (while cooking). I sounded something like this, “WAHHHHHH, WAHHHH,why did this have to happen now! Weeks before I showcase my ring for the very first time! My freakish finger will steal all the attention!” I got a lot of laughs from hospital staff but I was pretty serious.
And so ladies and gentlemen, here it is….the big unveiling.
I’m not sure what will look better at the real unveiling of the ring. Should I cover up my finger with gauze as is, which will be a huge distraction to the ring – or should I go au natural, and let everyone see my finger with half of the tippety-top missing? What is the greater distraction?
Have any of you had similar plans go drastically wrong? Either at bridal events leading up to the big day, or on the wedding day itself? How did you deal with them?
I would do whatever is best for the finger at that time. If a smaller band-aid would do it great. Don’t get an infection though just to unveil! On the plans going amis… my friend’s fiance was playing basketball instead of picking out their wedding bands (he asked to delay for a couple hours so he could play). Well, this pissed her off enough. Imagine when he got home and told her he thought his arm was broken less that 4 weeks before the wedding. She told him she hoped it really hurt :)! (she is really sweet so don’t think she is mean)
OoHH..I can imagine your WAHHH! My Maid of Honor is getting married this Saturday and as a part of her bridal party…I’ve been completely antsy about this for months. So my fiance has a wild night out with friends a few weeks ago, fractured his hand and now has a cast on his right arm with autographs. I was so darn peeved! Luckily…it’s healing fast and will be taken off the day before the rehearsal dinner. I also told him I hoped it really hurt! But you’d be surprised…people will be so excited to see you, they won’t even notice the hurt finger…I promise. They’ll be too busy ooohhing and ahhhing over the blingy one! :)
Ha, I am also a klutz and can totally imagine something happening to me days before the wedding, and having to walk down the aisle in crutches. Better to prepare for the worse. Get Well!
Get well soon!! I hope your finger heals quickly and that the engagement party (and unveiling!) go well.
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Why dont you wait and see if you still need to wear the mother of all gauze that day. If not get some cute little bandaides such as hello kitty
I hope you feel better soon! Do what is best for your finger! People will see the ring anyway.
Your finger is part of you! Your ring, while pretty, is a symbol that can be replaced if something (god forbid) happened to it.
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OH NO! I’ll also be missing an itty bitty body part for my Wedding Day, too — my right big toenail. I lost it while training for a half-marathon. And I’m wearing open toe shoes. The solution? Paint my skin to match my other nails. I’m sure you’ll come up with something to cover your finger, too! And I bet nobody notices either of our missing pieces!
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Thanks all! These are great suggestions. And very true advice. It could have been worse….but let’s hope it doesn’t get any worse.
Oh no! Not gonna lie, though - had I been one of the people you’d talked to at the hospital, I would’ve laughed (though sympathetically) a little, too.
I’m with the maybe-you’ll-be-able-to-use-a-band-aid crowd. And hey - now you have 2 stories to tell about the same hand. =)
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Oh, Kash! That is one mother of a bandage! Only you, Kasia, only you…I can’t wait to see pictures of the ring!
Hi Kasia,
Just taking a moment to catch up on your blogs (checked out all 3). I don’t know what to tell you about this one but ‘knock on wood’ what else can happen - you will definately have a few stories to pass down to future generations at least!
On another note wondering what ever happened to kitty Fanta? Just me being an old softy I guess.
Best!
Alana
Sorry to hear of your misfortune! I’m sure it will be much better by your party. If not, that’s okay, because it’s not all about the ring. I know how important it must be; but that doens’t make a marriage, ultimately. This accident also will make for a great story. Enjoy your party!
