Comments on: Lay It On Me

By: LisaH

LisaH — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 19:53:28 +0000

I’m right with you….your post totally echoed how I am feeling right now. We are less than 6 weeks out and I am no longer having fun with this, which makes me sad. I, too, have a very lovely husband-to-be, who looks to me for direction for everything wedding-related. And that’s fine up to a certain point…but now I’m tired of always taking the lead. It gets exhausting.
I just keep telling myself to have patience with those around me (also, no family or bridesmaids near me!) and to think of what’s at the finish line (a wonderful boy who will be my husband and of course, a honeymoon). Hang in there…this is the final stretch!

By: desabel

desabel — Sat, 20 Jun 2009 14:10:16 +0000

I am so with you! My future grandmother-in-law was afraid to host a bridal shower because she didnt want the blame for who was or wasnt getting invited. Both parents want to invite more people than the venue can accomodate and cousins are offended their kids aren’t invited and may not come. Weddings just bring out the best and the worst. I’m 5 weeks out and feel the same way you do!

By: Kristy

Kristy — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 22:27:49 +0000

Honey, you are so not alone. I am 4 months out and am ready to throw in the towel on the planning already. =) Kristy’s most recent blog post: Congratulations, Rach!

By: Jess

Jess — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 21:23:16 +0000

Oh hon, you are not alone! Family was one of the biggest reasons why my husband and I flew to St. Lucia to get married by ourselves on a beach. I hope your wedding doesn't come to that! Jess’s most recent blog post: Our Hostess

By: Michelle

Michelle — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 21:12:23 +0000

You are so not alone (obvious from the previous commentors). But I know that I can completely relate. My wedding is a month out as well and it’s the little things that are starting to seem so daunting. Also the FMIL’s birthday is on the day of our rehearsal, so I am feeling some obligation to make sure to recognize that, even though she has been less than supportive. Take a deep breath, kiss your hubby to be and focus on the day after. I know that’s my plan! :)

By: Sara

Sara — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 20:49:22 +0000

PS – Just to add to my previous comment, we’ve been married a little over 3 and a half years now (not far from you…we’re in Rochester, NY), and I’m happy to say it’s only gotten better every day since the wedding. So. Keep calm and carry on…this is just something you need to get through. It’ll be worth it!

By: Sara

Sara — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 20:42:27 +0000

The closer we got to the wedding, the more we wanted to just elope. Here’s a horror story for you to make you feel better: a week from the wedding, my mother actually THREW OUT all of our wedding programs in rage because she felt slighted by the way I had worded something…listing my future in-laws before my own parents, to mirror the way I had placed my husband’s name before mine. Unfortunately, her actions during the planning process really tainted our memories of our wedding.

I’ll say this: at the end of the day, you’ll be married to your best friend, and that’s what the wedding is all about. Stick to your guns about things that matter, and try to let go of the things that don’t. You don’t have to have a perfect wedding day to have a GREAT marriage.

By: Tiffany @ bride-on-purpose

Tiffany @ bride-on-purpose — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 20:33:31 +0000

YOU ARE NOT ALONE!! We are about 2 months out, and while I am fairly organized, and generally able to maintain momentum on projects, etc., it is all a bit much to handle considering I am also in the process of finishing my PhD (my defense will be 10 days before our wedding?!?!). My man also tries to help, but, as you said, there is only one person steering the ship, and that is (always has been, and likely always will be) me. My mom and bridesmaids are three hours away, so as I check items off the list (the wedding feeling more and more like a J-O-B), I yearn for the days that we were footloose and fancy free (remember those early days of dating), and I look forward to the bliss of drinking wine and eating bread in Italy!! Keep your chin up girl, and at this point, I think it is time to turn a blind eye to the politics (hello Dad, the invites are sooooo 3 months ago, right?!). Decisions have been made, and now it is time to execute, and sail in to the finish line! You can do it!!

By: kathryn

kathryn — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 19:46:51 +0000

Although we don’t have the same stresses attached to our wedding, it is 23 days away and I am so terribly tired that I can’t even bare to do another craft, choose another song, or even look at our ceremony materials. Not to mention the fact that I have lost all patience with vendors who NEVER respond to my phone calls and e-mails. I don’t want to wish the days away, because I’ve enjoyed the wedding planning process up to this point, but I do look forward to getting back to “normal” life after the wedding. I hope everything works out for you and you have the best wedding day ever!

By: Molly

Molly — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 19:46:36 +0000

I’m getting married a month from today, and this week my emotions have been all over the place! I’ve had blissfully in love days, frustrated days, and “do you not realize we have a million things to do RIGHT NOW” days… I keep focusing in on checking one thing at a time off the list and not letting myself get overwhelmed by just how many things there are to do. Good luck!