Comments on: Firstname Lastname http://www.elizabethannedesigns.com/blog/2009/07/08/firstname-lastname/ The wedding blog that is all about the details... Mon, 13 Feb 2012 12:49:26 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: emily http://www.elizabethannedesigns.com/blog/2009/07/08/firstname-lastname/#comment-36100 emily Fri, 10 Jul 2009 14:36:07 +0000 http://www.elizabethannedesigns.com/blog/?p=13916#comment-36100 As someone who's been hyphenated since birth, I don't recommend it. When you're hyphenated you have to use both names on lots of semi-official stuff, like credit cards and plane tickets. Airlines still don't allow for hyphens when you book online, so my last name comes out as one long word, in all caps, on tickets, and you should hear them try to page me. For a while, I couldn't use those kiosk check-ins, because my credit card had a hyphen and my ticket didn't. My SATs got lost - no hyphen, I can never find my file at businesses because it is in one last name or the other, it's a mess, and I'd say since more and more stuff is computerized it's gotten worse. That's just my two cents- I'd go the dynasty route, since I don't think you're planning on having 4 husbands. That way you can use both when you want, and just his when it's easier. And I'll be using vacation days if I have to to get my name changed as soon as possible after the marriage license comes back ;) As someone who’s been hyphenated since birth, I don’t recommend it. When you’re hyphenated you have to use both names on lots of semi-official stuff, like credit cards and plane tickets. Airlines still don’t allow for hyphens when you book online, so my last name comes out as one long word, in all caps, on tickets, and you should hear them try to page me. For a while, I couldn’t use those kiosk check-ins, because my credit card had a hyphen and my ticket didn’t.
My SATs got lost – no hyphen, I can never find my file at businesses because it is in one last name or the other, it’s a mess, and I’d say since more and more stuff is computerized it’s gotten worse.
That’s just my two cents- I’d go the dynasty route, since I don’t think you’re planning on having 4 husbands. That way you can use both when you want, and just his when it’s easier.
And I’ll be using vacation days if I have to to get my name changed as soon as possible after the marriage license comes back ;)

]]> By: Norah http://www.elizabethannedesigns.com/blog/2009/07/08/firstname-lastname/#comment-36025 Norah Fri, 10 Jul 2009 03:49:13 +0000 http://www.elizabethannedesigns.com/blog/?p=13916#comment-36025 My beloved and I both have long last names, so hyphenation doesn't really work. If I took his last name and kept my first and middle, my initials would be NAG. That's right, NAG. So, I think the solution is to drop my middle name and replace it with my maiden name, then take my h2b's last name. Phew! <abbr><em>Norah’s most recent blog post: <a href="http://whoawedding.wordpress.com/2009/07/09/pretty-pochoirs/" rel="nofollow">Pretty Pochoirs</a></abbr></em> My beloved and I both have long last names, so hyphenation doesn’t really work. If I took his last name and kept my first and middle, my initials would be NAG. That’s right, NAG. So, I think the solution is to drop my middle name and replace it with my maiden name, then take my h2b’s last name. Phew!

Norah’s most recent blog post: Pretty Pochoirs

]]> By: T http://www.elizabethannedesigns.com/blog/2009/07/08/firstname-lastname/#comment-35838 T Thu, 09 Jul 2009 07:39:39 +0000 http://www.elizabethannedesigns.com/blog/?p=13916#comment-35838 We've had the same thought - h2b and I are both changing our names to be hyphenated because I just couldn't subdue the feminist bit of me that thought it was silly to be leaving behind an identity that I've had for a long time, and like. It's kind've nice to have the same surname - like saying 'we're part of the same team' but I don't think it's nice to carry on an essentially patriarchal 'tradition'. I guess it's just good that people now have the option rather than being 'expected' to take the husbands name. <abbr><em>T’s most recent blog post: <a href="http://strivingforsustainable.blogspot.com/2009/06/so-back-to-wedding-things.html" rel="nofollow">Wedding dress - further environmental/fashion dilemmas</a></abbr></em> We’ve had the same thought – h2b and I are both changing our names to be hyphenated because I just couldn’t subdue the feminist bit of me that thought it was silly to be leaving behind an identity that I’ve had for a long time, and like. It’s kind’ve nice to have the same surname – like saying ‘we’re part of the same team’ but I don’t think it’s nice to carry on an essentially patriarchal ‘tradition’.
I guess it’s just good that people now have the option rather than being ‘expected’ to take the husbands name.

T’s most recent blog post: Wedding dress – further environmental/fashion dilemmas

]]> By: EcoYogini http://www.elizabethannedesigns.com/blog/2009/07/08/firstname-lastname/#comment-35807 EcoYogini Wed, 08 Jul 2009 22:08:49 +0000 http://www.elizabethannedesigns.com/blog/?p=13916#comment-35807 You know, I really like the idea of BOTH the bride and groom hyphenating- I know of one couple who has done it and it's such a beautiful, equal, sweet gesture. Unfortunately my last name and his last name do not go well together... at all. so- we're each (so far) keeping our last names. :) You know, I really like the idea of BOTH the bride and groom hyphenating- I know of one couple who has done it and it’s such a beautiful, equal, sweet gesture. Unfortunately my last name and his last name do not go well together… at all.
so- we’re each (so far) keeping our last names. :)

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