Comments on: The boy saw my dress…and other traditions I am not following http://www.elizabethannedesigns.com/blog/2009/08/03/the-boy-saw-my-dress%e2%80%a6and-other-traditions-i-am-not-following/ The wedding blog that is all about the details... Mon, 13 Feb 2012 19:30:54 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: kelly http://www.elizabethannedesigns.com/blog/2009/08/03/the-boy-saw-my-dress%e2%80%a6and-other-traditions-i-am-not-following/#comment-39784 kelly Tue, 11 Aug 2009 03:15:31 +0000 http://www.elizabethannedesigns.com/blog/?p=14743#comment-39784 Hooray for you! I'm not letting Garrett see the dress until the wedding day but he pointed out a dress in a window once that I tried on (and loved until I found out it was $4000). I showed him pictures of a lot of the reject dresses just to make sure he liked the styles I was trying on. I recently said something about not wanting to sunburn my shoulders since my dress was strapless and he said "I didn't know it was strapless" oops... I won't be walking down the aisle since Garrett and I are going to the city hall before the wedding but if I was I'd like the idea of both my parents walking me. I don't like all of the connotations of wedding traditions. That my parents should pay for the wedding by themselves (and thus a dowry) , that I am being given away by my father, that I am Mrs. Hisfirstname Hislastname... Drives me nuts. As far as the announcing, I think I'd like "Introducing Mr. Garrett and Mrs. Kelly Cummings" (or Mrs. Kelly and Mr. Garrett, I don't care) as opposed to Mr. and Mrs. Garrett Cummings. Why do people hold on to traditions that don't make sense anymore with the way we do things? .-= kelly's most recent blog post: <a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/elizabethannedesigns/CQyk/~3/lnwA2WSK8LY/" rel="nofollow">Library Link Love</a> =-. Hooray for you! I’m not letting Garrett see the dress until the wedding day but he pointed out a dress in a window once that I tried on (and loved until I found out it was $4000). I showed him pictures of a lot of the reject dresses just to make sure he liked the styles I was trying on. I recently said something about not wanting to sunburn my shoulders since my dress was strapless and he said “I didn’t know it was strapless” oops…

I won’t be walking down the aisle since Garrett and I are going to the city hall before the wedding but if I was I’d like the idea of both my parents walking me. I don’t like all of the connotations of wedding traditions. That my parents should pay for the wedding by themselves (and thus a dowry) , that I am being given away by my father, that I am Mrs. Hisfirstname Hislastname… Drives me nuts.

As far as the announcing, I think I’d like “Introducing Mr. Garrett and Mrs. Kelly Cummings” (or Mrs. Kelly and Mr. Garrett, I don’t care) as opposed to Mr. and Mrs. Garrett Cummings. Why do people hold on to traditions that don’t make sense anymore with the way we do things?
.-= kelly’s most recent blog post: Library Link Love =-.

]]> By: The Professional Bridesmaid http://www.elizabethannedesigns.com/blog/2009/08/03/the-boy-saw-my-dress%e2%80%a6and-other-traditions-i-am-not-following/#comment-39376 The Professional Bridesmaid Fri, 07 Aug 2009 14:02:26 +0000 http://www.elizabethannedesigns.com/blog/?p=14743#comment-39376 Great post! And I love how the boy said 'looks good'....hehe. I always envisioned of my parents walking down the aisle with me. In Jewish custom, the groom walks down the aisle with his parents, then the bridesmaids/groomsmen, the the bride walks down the aisle to meet her parents half way down the aisle, then all 3 walked down to the altar (chuppah) together. I always loved this tradition. Great post! And I love how the boy said ‘looks good’….hehe. I always envisioned of my parents walking down the aisle with me. In Jewish custom, the groom walks down the aisle with his parents, then the bridesmaids/groomsmen, the the bride walks down the aisle to meet her parents half way down the aisle, then all 3 walked down to the altar (chuppah) together. I always loved this tradition.

]]> By: Mo http://www.elizabethannedesigns.com/blog/2009/08/03/the-boy-saw-my-dress%e2%80%a6and-other-traditions-i-am-not-following/#comment-38909 Mo Tue, 04 Aug 2009 21:05:09 +0000 http://www.elizabethannedesigns.com/blog/?p=14743#comment-38909 @Robin: I like that ending! Thank you for the suggestion. @Robin: I like that ending! Thank you for the suggestion.

]]> By: Robin http://www.elizabethannedesigns.com/blog/2009/08/03/the-boy-saw-my-dress%e2%80%a6and-other-traditions-i-am-not-following/#comment-38904 Robin Tue, 04 Aug 2009 20:39:13 +0000 http://www.elizabethannedesigns.com/blog/?p=14743#comment-38904 I've had clients put this into their vows: "I pronounce you married and invite you to celebrate with a kiss." Depending on the laws in your state, some require the officiant to "pronounce" the marriage so sometimes you can't throw this part out. @Bells - trust me, sometimes you are so wrapped up in the moment and feeling like a deer-in-headlights that some people need to be told to kiss. Its is also helpful to your guests to signify that the event is final and they are allowed to clap. I’ve had clients put this into their vows: “I pronounce you married and invite you to celebrate with a kiss.” Depending on the laws in your state, some require the officiant to “pronounce” the marriage so sometimes you can’t throw this part out.

@Bells – trust me, sometimes you are so wrapped up in the moment and feeling like a deer-in-headlights that some people need to be told to kiss. Its is also helpful to your guests to signify that the event is final and they are allowed to clap.

]]> By: Bells http://www.elizabethannedesigns.com/blog/2009/08/03/the-boy-saw-my-dress%e2%80%a6and-other-traditions-i-am-not-following/#comment-38872 Bells Tue, 04 Aug 2009 16:57:45 +0000 http://www.elizabethannedesigns.com/blog/?p=14743#comment-38872 I'm definitely in favour of being selective over traditions, and of making up a few of your own (eg - Melissa's Grandfather – I love that he’s having his moment! so sweet!) I also never really got why you have to be told to (or worse, be given permission) to kiss?? Who really needs encouragement at that moment? I’m definitely in favour of being selective over traditions, and of making up a few of your own (eg – Melissa’s Grandfather – I love that he’s having his moment! so sweet!)
I also never really got why you have to be told to (or worse, be given permission) to kiss?? Who really needs encouragement at that moment?

]]> By: Mo http://www.elizabethannedesigns.com/blog/2009/08/03/the-boy-saw-my-dress%e2%80%a6and-other-traditions-i-am-not-following/#comment-38866 Mo Tue, 04 Aug 2009 16:24:28 +0000 http://www.elizabethannedesigns.com/blog/?p=14743#comment-38866 @julia: Please do! And let us know how it goes! @anna and the ring: It's okay, Anna. I enjoy conspiracy theories. :) @julia: Please do! And let us know how it goes!

@anna and the ring: It’s okay, Anna. I enjoy conspiracy theories. :)

]]> By: anna and the ring http://www.elizabethannedesigns.com/blog/2009/08/03/the-boy-saw-my-dress%e2%80%a6and-other-traditions-i-am-not-following/#comment-38826 anna and the ring Tue, 04 Aug 2009 04:44:00 +0000 http://www.elizabethannedesigns.com/blog/?p=14743#comment-38826 Goooooo! Mo! Traditions are designed as something to control the proletariat! Only kidding, well slightly. Gosh I sound all conspiracy theory! I say do what you feel is you. I love the idea of the groom meeting me halfway. Goooooo! Mo!

Traditions are designed as something to control the proletariat! Only kidding, well slightly. Gosh I sound all conspiracy theory!

I say do what you feel is you. I love the idea of the groom meeting me halfway.

]]> By: julia http://www.elizabethannedesigns.com/blog/2009/08/03/the-boy-saw-my-dress%e2%80%a6and-other-traditions-i-am-not-following/#comment-38789 julia Tue, 04 Aug 2009 00:33:24 +0000 http://www.elizabethannedesigns.com/blog/?p=14743#comment-38789 Love the thought of having both your sets of parents walk you in. Maybe I will talk to DJ about :borrowing: that idea! Love the thought of having both your sets of parents walk you in. Maybe I will talk to DJ about :borrowing: that idea!

]]> By: Brit http://www.elizabethannedesigns.com/blog/2009/08/03/the-boy-saw-my-dress%e2%80%a6and-other-traditions-i-am-not-following/#comment-38786 Brit Tue, 04 Aug 2009 00:20:28 +0000 http://www.elizabethannedesigns.com/blog/?p=14743#comment-38786 I love that you are not following tradition. Many of the traditions about weddings exist for other reasons than why people *actually* think they exist. We are forgoing several "traditional" elements around our wedding because the wedding should be a reflection of me and the FI, not some old world viewpoint! I love that you are not following tradition. Many of the traditions about weddings exist for other reasons than why people *actually* think they exist. We are forgoing several “traditional” elements around our wedding because the wedding should be a reflection of me and the FI, not some old world viewpoint!

]]> By: Mo http://www.elizabethannedesigns.com/blog/2009/08/03/the-boy-saw-my-dress%e2%80%a6and-other-traditions-i-am-not-following/#comment-38776 Mo Mon, 03 Aug 2009 23:22:40 +0000 http://www.elizabethannedesigns.com/blog/?p=14743#comment-38776 @Emma: I think Brooke had a good suggestion, and that's to be announced as "the newly married couple, your full name and your partner's full name!" Or you could just do first names for something more informal. @Emma: I think Brooke had a good suggestion, and that’s to be announced as “the newly married couple, your full name and your partner’s full name!” Or you could just do first names for something more informal.

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