Comments on: Choosing a Bridal Party – Help!

By: Robin

Robin — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 16:45:33 +0000

I would say ABSOLUTELY pick the guy as your MOH …. except that he is going to be a 1L (1st year law student). That is the craziest year of school and he won’t have as much time to help you do things or be your sounding board (trust me I’ve done it). He’ll be thinking about torts, contracts, and blackacre. I would definitely make him a special part in your wedding but something that doesn’t require too much work ahead of time (such as a reader).

By: juel

juel — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 14:46:41 +0000

Thanks everyone so much for your help. I feel much more settled that I haven’t chosen a party yet. So yeah, IN YOUR FACE weddingchannel.com :) I’m still unsure about who I will ask, but I know that I will wait until at least the winter to make the decision. I also feel less pressure to find someone to perform those duties that I listed above. I’m way too type-A to delegate that much anyway and I know there are other people that I’m not considering for the bridal party who will want to get involved with planning and such.
Thanks again everyone!! I have regained a bit of my sanity…for now :)
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By: leenie

leenie — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 19:34:53 +0000

The time leading up isn’t a big deal, you just have to do a bit more yourself, I think it’s who’s standing with you the day of that matters. Maybe I’m biased because none of my maids live in my city, but that’s what blogs, e-mails and phones are for. And I say go for it if your guy friend is up for it. The people most important to you should be the ones you share this time with.

By: Kristy

Kristy — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 15:44:38 +0000

If you want a guy in your bridal party, then go for it. If you want your friend in Spain to stand next to you, then ask her. It’s all completely up to you. Some people (usually older people) might find it a little strange that you have a guy standing on your side, but if that guy is important to you and your fiance, then that should be a good enough reason for him to be up there with you.

That list of Maid of Honor duties is hysterical to me. It sounds like your MOH is supposed to be your wedding planner/coordinator/personal assistant. And mine isn’t doing any of that, unless she really wants to. 2 good friends of mine that are not in the bridal party are planning my bachelorette party. Family friends are hosting a shower for me, and my fiance’s aunt is hosting a couple’s shower, too.

Basically, I think you can do whatever you want. Whatever makes you happy and keeps you sane. =)
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By: kara

kara — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 14:40:33 +0000

Honestly, everyone I had in my wedding is far away and I kind of regret it. I don’t think your MOH needs to be close by…. but maybe have 1 friend close by be in your wedding. And most importantly, make sure its someone that you can count on!

By: Jessica

Jessica — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 14:16:13 +0000

I’m in the same boat – I don’t have many female friends and most of them are more acquaintances than best friends. I’m only having a MOH and I don’t even keep in touch with her that much. I live in FL and am originally from MI where the wedding will be held. Up until a few weeks ago, my MOH still lived in MI but has since moved to Cali… so definitely not local in any way. I probably won’t even see her in person again until the wedding weekend – and that’s okay by me, but I have also been receiving comments from other friends/family that think it’s weird/wrong that not only am I not having bridesmaids, but that my MOH is so far away.

By: Bells

Bells — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 12:10:06 +0000

Wow – Junebug seems to be describing a PA there!
I say do whatever works for you and those you love. Those responsibilities listed can be taken on by whoever is best for the job and if that is one super-duper person or a mixture between your best guy pal, a wedding planner, your far away girlfriends, your Mom or your fiancé’s aunt’s neighbour (or whatever) then go for it.
The important thing is that you and those are around you enjoy their involvement in your special day. You can even make up job titles for them if “maid” of honour doesn’t fit!

By: The Professional Bridesmaid

The Professional Bridesmaid — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 04:24:30 +0000

I say leave those stereotypes, what you should and shouldn’t do, customs and traditions at the door. Who do you want standing next to you when you say ‘I do’? I adore Junebug weddings but I do think the above list of duties is more characteristic of what a ‘planner’ would do. Having been a bridesmaid 8 times, I have to say, I had the most fun being a BM/MOH when the bride said straight up, I want you to stand beside me on my wedding day. I had the least fun when I knew the bride was asking me to be MOH b/c she knew I could do the ‘list’ of duties. Good luck with your decision!
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By: Lyndsey

Lyndsey — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 04:08:33 +0000

I live in WI and my bridal party? I have two girl maid of honors (in New Zealand and in Nebraska), a bridesmaid (in CA) and my brother will be a brides..man? (he’s in Nebraska). The way I see it is, who cares what a maid of honor is supposed to do. You make your own rules. What you need help with get the best person to help you with. My mom helped me pick my dress, not my girls. I’m a little type-a and don’t like the thought of handing over alot of these responsibilities to my friends. In fact, I feel relieved that I can plan things myown way with input only when I ask for it. As for having a guy? If he fits YOUR criteria, then why on earth not have him as the MOH? I wish you the best!

By: Megan

Megan — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 03:51:29 +0000

I wouldn’t worry about having a guy be your MOH! If he fits the bill and is willing to do it, why not?

What drum corps were in, btw?