Comments on: Future Bridezilla?

By: Denise

Denise — Wed, 02 Sep 2009 14:03:09 +0000

If they are courtesy invites they should probably be cut regardless of the dress. It is “your” wedding day and it should be the way you want it. I, for one, would not be ready to spend a ton of money on a dress that I will only wear once; but that is just me. If it is the dress that makes you happy you really should find ways to save money in other, not as important, areas. Cutting the courtesy invites would be logical. A wedding is a big big expense, especially in a bad ecomony. I can’t imagine you fiance’s invites woudl be too distraught over not being invited. If I was to be considered a courtesy invite, I would be greatful to not have to spend the money on a gift, clothes, etc. In conclusion please don’t make it out to be a “Bridezilla’ moment when it is a truely rationalizing moment. Hopefully that helps! Good luck!

By: Faustine

Faustine — Tue, 01 Sep 2009 19:06:17 +0000

While I wouldn’t personally ever cut people for a dress, I don’t think desire was bridezilla-ish.

I do, however, think that just telling your fiance that 20 people need to be cut because you want this dress (specifically when the 20 people you want cut are presumably HIS people, based on your later comment) is bridezilla-ish. Maybe in the end it does make the most sense to cut those people since they may just be courtesy invites that no one really cares about and it would be better to have you happy in THE dress. But that would be better figured out by approaching it with your fiance in a “I really want this and it means a lot to me…how can we make it happen” way.

It’s when brides start saying “you need to sacrifice this so that I can have what I want” that they start becoming bridezillas. And I think we should tell each other when we’re doing that so we can stop!

By: Kate

Kate — Mon, 31 Aug 2009 02:08:35 +0000

The dress is fabulous. I say do what you can to make it happen- including selling it after.

By: April

April — Sat, 29 Aug 2009 11:28:51 +0000

I completely understand. I’ve found myself getting crazy over ridiculous things such as the embossing on the rehearsal dinner invitations – and then I took a deep breath and tried to put things into perspective. However, I think the dress is a BIG part of the wedding day, and you should definitely feel beautiful. Sometimes you have to make cuts in other areas to put more money toward your top priorities. If your wedding dress is one of your top priorities, then the budget should reflect it.

I don’t think you’re a bridezilla. You tried looking for it used and on sale, so you made a big effort at finding your dream dress in your budget. It just didn’t happen. There are some really good suggestions above…like selling your dress after the wedding or getting a talented seamstress to make your dress. Good luck!

By: Erin

Erin — Sat, 29 Aug 2009 02:56:16 +0000

What is the dress you’re looking for? I know you’ve probably done a pretty thorough search, but having all the eyes of the readers looking for you too certainly couldn’t hurt!!

By: Kasia

Kasia — Fri, 28 Aug 2009 21:27:23 +0000

Thanks ladies, these are all great suggestions. As Ive said, it still does not feel remotely ok to splurge on this dress, but I may try to sell some of my designer duds to make up for the cost or cut corners elsewhere.!

By: Erin

Erin — Fri, 28 Aug 2009 20:08:58 +0000

Have you considered having a dress made? I had a specific vision for my maids and couldn’t find the right design for a budget-friendly price anywhere. I had a good friend who was an amazing seamstress and she helped me piece together the perfect dresses using a fabric I got to choose. Perhaps you can talk to a seamstress about this option, changing a few things along the way to make it uniquely YOUR dress and fit to perfection. Just a thought!

By: SJ

SJ — Fri, 28 Aug 2009 18:52:10 +0000

A few weeks ago I was thinking out loud/complaining about some wedding details I was struggling with and my fiance said “don’t be such a bridezilla.” He didn’t say it in a mean way and the smile on his face told me that he thought he was pretty funny. I said “do you even know what that means??” He thought about it and then admitted that he really didn’t. I explained that it’s not even a remotely funny thing to say to your future wife and then I started freaking out that maybe I actually was being a bridezilla. Sigh. This wedding stuff can be rough sometimes.

Wanting your dress to feel perfect is not being a bridezilla but the last thing you want from your perfect dress is for it to make you feel guilty because you spent too much. Take it from an over-budget bride, stick to the budget and it will feel better in the longrun. Happy hunting!
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By: The Perfect Palette

The Perfect Palette — Fri, 28 Aug 2009 17:12:16 +0000

good luck :)

By: Mo

Mo — Fri, 28 Aug 2009 17:07:12 +0000

Have you considered selling the dress after the wedding? You could have some of that money returned to you, and make another bride very happy.

I hear you though, at one point I was infatuated with anything Amy Kuschel and really wanted to go to the flagship salon with my mother to have something made. Unfortunately that price tag was 2k and up and I wanted to hover around the 1k mark. I’m glad I didn’t make that appointment because the dress I bought was closer to my 1k budget.

Good luck finding the dress! And, if it makes you feel better, I whine about EVERYTHING, not just wedding-related items. :)
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