Comments on: Our Big Fat Chinese Wedding

By: Claire

Claire — Fri, 14 May 2010 01:25:36 +0000

I think it is so exciting that you are having 2 celebrations. I think it is great that you are having both the western wedding and the Chinese wedding.

By: Larissa

Larissa — Sat, 17 Oct 2009 11:48:53 +0000

I’m having a “western” wedding in San Diego at the Darlington House at the end of the month and will have a chinese banquet-style wedding in Orange County the following week. Uyen is also doing my makeup and Paula my flowers!! Anyhoo, I was hoping that my mom would take care of all the details for the second reception, but I’ve somehow gotten dragged into it, so I’ve been planning two weddings, ugh! I plan on wearing a traditional Vietnamese dress at the second reception, but mom wants me to change into my wedding dress for the second half. Is it a faux pas to wear my wedding dress again?

By: Bea

Bea — Sun, 20 Sep 2009 10:56:53 +0000

Wow, two celebrations! That's fantastic! .-= Bea's most recent blog post: DIY Ice Cream Parlour & More =-.

By: Mo

Mo — Sat, 19 Sep 2009 17:03:55 +0000

@anna and the ring: If there was ever a wedding that would be easy to crash, it’d probably be that one! If you bust out some Cantonese they won’t think twice about your presence.

@julia: That’s exactly what my sister said! I’m glad they have this to look forward to. They’re already looking at invitations and talking about who will give speeches. They haven’t talked about wedding #1 since they started planning the banquet.

@Emma: Yes, red is customary because it symbolizes good luck. Typically a cheongsam is red, sometimes with a phoenix or dragon. The two dresses my mother wore are nontraditional. I’m supposed to wear a red gown at some point, and I’ll keep you all posted on my shopping adventures!
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By: Emma

Emma — Sat, 19 Sep 2009 13:12:10 +0000

Is it traditional to wear red for the Chinese wedding? I can’t wait to see what you wear :-)

By: julia

julia — Sat, 19 Sep 2009 12:28:27 +0000

Those are both such pretty dresses! How cool to have two weddings. It’s probably good to occupy the moms with one so you can have the western one your way.

By: anna and the ring

anna and the ring — Sat, 19 Sep 2009 05:59:00 +0000

Mmm, can I pretend to be a 5th cousin? .-= anna and the ring's most recent blog post: wedding list wednesday =-.

By: Mo

Mo — Sat, 19 Sep 2009 04:02:33 +0000

@juel: Good question. I would say the banquet, as opposed to our vineyard wedding, is more important for both of our parents. For many of the guests who will be at the Chinese banquet, the banquet IS the wedding.
First dances and cake cutting aren’t really a priority for them. The traditions they are interested in are the tea ceremony, in which the bride and groom serve tea to their elders, and a formal introduction of all our family members to wedding guests.
I hope they remember telling me that all I have to do is show and smile a lot, because I can barely handle planning one wedding!
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By: juel

juel — Sat, 19 Sep 2009 02:06:02 +0000

Definitely helps that you don’t have to do anything for your Chinese celebration. Do your parents view one or the other as more important to them at all?

By: The Professional Bridesmaid

The Professional Bridesmaid — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 15:18:49 +0000

Lucky you! It helps that you’re getting lots of help with Wedding #2! Roasted pork – bring it on!
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