We didn’t have any problems with people on facebook. I did have problems with people in real life…co-workers and the like hinting pretty blatently that they assumed they were invited. Which they might have been if we were having a big, in-town wedding, but we were having a tiny, out-of-state wedding…and they all knew this.

We go the first phone call within 6 minutes and then our walls exploded. We never thought to do it any other way. It was the easiest way to tell people after the immediate family had been notified.

I have “looked in” on the wedding photos of many high school friends and such. I didn’t feel bad that I wasn’t invited, we aren’t that close. Most people know where they stand in your life and will accept it gracefully if you don’t include them with an invite.

I think most people generally know how close they are to the couple, and aren’t too suprised one way or the other. I’ve been on the fringe a couple times, and I know I will be… I wait and see if I get invited. Never too shocked either way, but always wish the couple well either way. Unless you have those tricky situations where someone thinks they’re way closer to you than you feel they are… in which case it will be trouble either way.

And as a non-close friend, and wedding obsesser….it’s always fun to hear about people’s everything. I mean… I read people’s blogs who I know nothing about! So I wouldn’t hesitate to share some information about being engaged, etc. I think whatever the couple is comfortable with is best. I mean… if you’re a person who shares what they ate for dinner and how many centimeters dialated you are on FB – why not share wedding deets? Personally, I wouldn’t share anything too personal, but that’s how I use FB in the first place.