Comments on: How Many Bridesmaids Does it Take to Help You Pee?

By: juel

juel — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 12:03:21 +0000

I second what Erin wrote. I’ve seen weddings where there are just a couple bridesmaids, but then the bride asks her closest friends to all wear the same color or coordinate somehow…I thought it was a really nice way for the friends to stand out, and it makes great pictures!! Probably what I would do if I were you…but I still haven’t even chosen my bridesmaids yet!! Sigh…
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By: Gina Shi Shi

Gina Shi Shi — Wed, 07 Oct 2009 19:09:32 +0000

I think it’s really important to be true to yourself when making decisions like this. Your mom might be vocal about it now, but in the end I doubt she’ll really be upset either way over this particular decision. She’s just trying to do what she thinks is best for you.

If some of the girls would be included only because they are part of “the group” and you couldn’t have some without the others, then have just your sister and closest friend and have the others participate in a reading or a poem as mentioned by Renatamic above.

Or, if you really are that close to all 11 ladies and want them to all share your day with you as bridesmaids, then they should all be bridesmaids. And, you can always split them up at the altar so that you have two rows of ladies, one set up on a step (maybe 5 of them) the other 6 on the floor, or everybody on the floor level with two rows one in front of the other but with staggered positioning. That way they only take up the space of 6 bridesmaids visually instead of a long single file line of 11 of them a la “27 Dresses” closing scene.

Good luck!

By: renatamic

renatamic — Wed, 07 Oct 2009 14:59:23 +0000

11?? wow. not to be a nay-sayer, but i vote for the two. simple. classy. elegant. 11 bridesmaids, to me, screams “i am 25 years old.” but, then again, i had 7…so who am i to judge.

my cousin did something cool and picked a poem to be read at the ceremony – each of her best friends read a line and she just had her two sisters, sister-in-law and sister-in-law-to-be standing up.

By: Julie

Julie — Wed, 07 Oct 2009 14:33:46 +0000

Can you make use of a house party at all? I’ve had this role in a few friends weddings. It’s a nice way to include more people, but not have a giant wedding party. We still felt so honored to be helping. It could be a good middle ground!

By: Al_Pal

Al_Pal — Wed, 07 Oct 2009 02:33:16 +0000

Ooh. I feel you! I got engaged a few months ago, but we consciously decided to not plan anything until our busy summer was over. I have two sisters and two best friends, but also a few other close friends who I’d invite IF my man gets all nine of his desired groomsmen. [ie if they are available]…time will tell!!! And he wants four best men. Heh. ;D
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By: Maria

Maria — Wed, 07 Oct 2009 02:27:38 +0000

I would go with your 11 besties – I think that you should have all your girls around you on such an important day of your life. Wishing you all the best!
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By: Megan

Megan — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 20:44:46 +0000

I would go with your two “special” Bridesmaids that stand up with you and then have your other maids sit in the front row with a similar dress color theme. Have two bridesmaids and make the rest “attendents”. That way they’ll all still be involved, but your Mom will be happy too. You can also do a “harvest table” instead of the traditional head table where your head table is in the middle of your reception space and your and your party sits all the way around your table (that’s what I’m doing because I don’t want people to watch me eat, and then we can also sit with out ushers and musicians that are very special to us).

By: Erin

Erin — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 18:23:11 +0000

Do what you think is best of course! I could see 11 bridesmaids being a bit odd if you’re not having a very large wedding or if the space isn’t large enough to hold all of them where ever you want them to stand/sit. Other than that, I don’t think it matters.

If you don’t want to have a huge bridal party, but do want to honour your girls, you could just let the other girls know how special they are to you and you want to include them and then ask them all to just attend the wedding as guests but wear a certain colour, or something to distinguish them. I’ve seen girls do that with sororiety sisters or old childhood friends when they can’t ask everyone to be in the bridal party. And then of course include them in whatever wedding activities you want. :)

good luck!

By: kate

kate — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 17:48:21 +0000

I was just in a wedding with 11 other girls (so 12 bridesmaids total) and the bride was worried about it looking odd, but it really didn't. One thing to consider that might appease your mom (this is what my friend did) is to have them all wear the dress with the bouquet and walk down the aisle, but then sit in the front row and have just the MOHs stand by you during the whole ceremony. .-= kate's most recent blog post: helpful tips 101 =-.

By: Melissa

Melissa — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 17:48:21 +0000

I know, it’s never easy. But you know, you can have all 11, but not have them standing up with you – but rather task them with other responsibilities.