…of being engaged….and we still have 8 more months to go.
some random thoughts at this point:
1) On a “wedding-related” phone call the other day…the lady on the other end told me CONGRATS! with a lot of excitement…it took me a minute to realize she meant about my engagement…because ya know…that happened SO 12 months ago…
2) I went to try on my dress/see it for the first time since I bought it 4 months ago…I told the lovely lady behind the desk that I bought it in June…getting married next June…she replied “oh yeah..I did the whole ONE-YEAR engagement thing too” (expressing that it is a looong time)…I didn’t correct her.
3) A few weeks ago we received a Save-The-Date from a couple friend of ours getting married a little more than a month BEFORE us…we haven’t even designed ours yet. (PS…they got engaged this summer)
4) Within the first 6 months of being engaged I got my ring cleaned oh around 10 times…since then…maybe once.
5) Thinking about Christmas I got excited thinking it will be our first Christmas as an engaged couple!!….oooooh waaaiiittt….nope…we were engaged last Christmas.
If you had (or have) a long engagement I think you know where I’m going with all this…it kinda sucks. I feel like I should be married already. I think a “typical” engagement of a year or less is very laid out…you have “check lists” dedicated to this time-span of being engaged…what about us long-timers?? What?…can’t you make us a “special extended version” with things like:
26 months out: Subscribe to every bridal magazine out there…in fact…just go ahead and order 2-years worth because after the first year is up…you still have another one to go!!
24 months out: remember to remind your possible venue that yes you DO mean the following summer…not this coming summer still 8 months away.
22 months out: continue to stalk blogs during your free time..but don’t get too excited…because really…you can’t possibly make a definite decision right now about napkins…by the time you get married hovercraft will be the popular mode of transportation.
20 months out: start blogging…what else are you gonna do with your time…at least you can start gathering ideas and then cross them off when they go out of style before your wedding.
So to my fellow long-timers…here’s to another 8 months of keeping the smiles going…the “OH THANKS…I KNOW…SOOO EXCITED!!” when someone congratulates you…continue to watch fellow bloggers plan their entire wedding, get married , and finish their recaps all before you send out your invites. In the end the result is the same…no matter if it took you 5 or 55 months to get there…MARRIED HAPPILY EVER AFTER!
and hopefully those extra months will make us like this…
and not this…
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Ok ladies…please reassure me that I am not the only one that has a long engagement!! …and tell me…what do you do to keep that newly-engaged excitement going??
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although i’m recently engaged, like you, we’re looking forward to a long engagement. i want to take my time with everything and not feel rushed. i’m pretty sure that second photo is from someone who was too stressed out about their wedding. if you take your time (just like you are) i think it’s impossible to not be like the woman in that first photo!
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We got engaged last new years and don;t get married for another 6 months!! So I feel your pain. But I did the exact same thing. Although the excitement can feel like its fizzling from time to time, we get (or I get) re-excited with every wedding purchase! As it is I did a happy dance around my fiance when my veil arrived today at lunch!!!!
Good luck!!! 8 months isn’t as far as it seems!
SIGH. We’ll have a 2 1/2 year engagement. It was supposed to only be 18 months BUT we postponed for another year and now, we’re back at the beginning. So yeah. It’s all planned. It’s all set. I’m good that way. I have plenty of DIY time. Now if only we could get to the “get married” part.
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I was engaged for 3 years! My husband and I met in highschool and became engaged when I was 20. We got married 3 years and 1 month later. We waited because we wanted to finish our undergraduate degrees before the wedding.
I TOTALLY understand where you are coming from. The first 6 months of our engagement was all congratulations and questions about a date. After awhile our family and friends did not seem to interested anymore. It was like being engaged was just a thing we were doing.
Since we did have such a long engagement we had PLENTY of time to plan. I really took my time with decisions and really enjoyed the entire process. Some brides rush through the planning process so quickly they do not have time really enjoy it. We took lots of time finding a venue and really made sure what we were choosing was exactly what we wanted.
My advice, relish the time and enjoy every moment of the planning process.
Well I am not engaged quite as long as you, but we’ve been engaged since February of this year and don’t get married until May 2010. I get confused when people say congratulations too!!! Just keep reminding yourself how FAB*U*LOUS your wedding will be since you have the time to plan!!! That’s what I’m doing anyway :)
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We’re just starting out with our long engagement (20 months total, 18 to go) and oh boy, I hear you. We can’t even reserve our venue because they don’t have a 2011 calendar yet. But to me, I’m looking on the positive side – cost saving, less stress, just spending more non-wedding-planning time with my partner. I’ve seen rapid engagements turn into giant stressballs of awful, so I’m okay with the waiting (even if no one else seems to be).
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Yup, I feel your pain. 18 months will be our total engaged time. Now we have 5 or so left and I just feel like I am twiddling my thumbs. *sigh*
Hands down the BEST post I’ve read in ages. Your timeline is the same as me and my fiancé’s… what seems like forever. The other day, I went through the same emotions – how exciting will the holidays be while we’re engaged? Answer – just like last year. While everyone says we’ll be less stressed out and have plenty of time for billions of DIY projects, I’m anxious too – I want to be married. The only thing that seems to help is the countdown is gaining momentum for us. And when I reverse it and think, next year we’ll be married for the holidays – that makes me giddy. Cheers to 8 months and thanks for a wonderful post!
This is exactly how I feel! I am so ready to get married.
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We were engaged a year before we got married and I wish it was longer! I loved being engaged and I could have spent years planning my wedding. Don’t get me wrong, I love being married- but “this is my fiance” just sounds so….YOUNG and FUN! “This is my husband” sometimes makes me feel old ;) Enjoy it while you can! You have your whole life to be married!
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We’ll have an 18 month engagement by the time its over and done with. I’ve LOVED the “long” engagement and wouldn’t have had it any different. At first I wanted to get married this August (got engaged in January), but honestly when the month came this summer I couldn’t imagine having rushed everything. I’m such an indecisive person and have definitely needed the time. I’m actually stressing about the fact we only have 9 months left (getting married next July)! =) We’ve enjoyed it but it does get a little confusing when I get the “congrats” still too!
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I got engaged in May 2009 and won’t be getting married until September 2011. I’m couldn’t stop laughing how dead on you were regarding the special extension. I have made a blog to 1) gather and “organize” my wedding ideas 2) to contain my excitement because I can’t really do any purchasing/booking until it gets closer to the date and 3) to not drive my fiance and friends insane with my wedding talk. Yes, I stalk every wedding blogs out there and yes I do have a venue (& contract drafted) and must constantly remind the venue that I am seriously waiting until 2011.
I was also super thrilled that on September 10, 2009, we were officially 24 months away from marrying each other. WEEEEE!
haha so here’s to another 23 months and some odd days!
I’m rooting for you!
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Yes, we are having a long engagement too (19 months) and frankly, it suits us and our lifestyle. We live in different cities and work our buttocks off so every weekend I try to do one minor wedding thing which makes the wedding seem no-drama – just the way we like it.
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Well we got engaged in Feb this year and our weddng date is in Feb 2012 so we are having a 3 year engagement!
It suits me fine though, I have alot organised already, booked the venues etc, and I can just take my time with things.
Plus more time to read blogs and buy magazines is good…
Yep, I hear ya! I got engaged in January this year and we are getting married May 29, 2010. We are SO ready to get married, but it is moving quickly now since we are actually planning more. I’m getting ready to send my save-the-dates out later this month. YAY!!
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I just got engaged last night(!!!!!), and I really don’t think our engagement will be much more than 6 months. I’m just ready to be married and call it good. :) It helps that we aren’t planning on doing a big wedding…
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Thank you for this post! This is exactly how I feel. Our 1-year “engage-iversary” was in September, and we forgot to celebrate it! It’s hard to keep the momentum going another 6 months. I’ve had to start new hobbies just to stop thinking about the wedding, since I can’t even make most decisions until closer to the date. Just the other week I had a mini-freak out about the menu, and realized the freak-out was about three months too soon!
Not engaged yet, but I know we’ll have somewhat of a long engagement… 1 year and six months!
I just got engaged 2 mts ago. I will be getting married 2 summers from now so its a full 2 year engagement and one of my best friends got engaged the week after me and she already set a date 1 full year before mine!!! haha. i love the idea of a long engagement. I am a total DIY girl and I want to have time to make, create and be inspired without the rush. AND YES it does mean making lots of lists just to go back and cross it all off and start over. The way i look at it… if you have a short engagement then you make haste decisions and end up regretting a lot. So with all this time I am able to make solid decisions i will be happy with forever. (hopefully) hahah.
oh and PS…. I already purchased my dress. but its a secret because i dont want anyone to think that im crazy! haha
I’m in the exact same boat – 19 month engagement – it’s killing me. I think we’re going to do a city hall wedding around the 1 yr engagement anniversary mark to break up the long engagement and then just celebrate with family and friends at the big wedding. I know how you feel!
We got engaged in March at the same time that we went from a long distance relationship to living together. So I wanted to make sure we could handle that transition first. Plus, I’d like to drop a notable amount of weight before spending a small fortune on photographs, so there’s that too. We’re currently aiming for a 2011 date and taking our time figuring it all out.
Our wedding is 2 months away now. We will have been planning for 22 months. It’s still hectic the last two months. I’m not going to lie. My invitations were addressed in May. I sent them out Friday. But there is still mucho things to do. It happens. There’s alot that can’t be taken care of all at once. But it’s a fun ride. Enjoy the next few months. It’s bliss (really) until you get closer to that mark. We are counting days not months now and each time it jumps 10 days I panic!
LOL. But I do know what you mean about the possible venue.
I know exactly what you mean. We been engaged since April 09, getting married August 2010, and if I get asked one more time when I’m going to try on wedding dresses I’m going to burst. It’s so annoying when everyone’s like congrats are you excited and I’m like um that wore off awhile ago…I’ll be excited when we get a bit closer to the big day.
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