No, I’m not talking about for our wedding, I’m talking about after the wedding. Here’s a snapshot of our background:
Pennsylvania -> San Francisco, CA -> Boston, MA-> ?
England -> Ireland -> Pennsylvania -> San Francisco, CA -> Boston, MA -> ?
As you can see, we’ve been around! We both met in college in Pennsylvania and moved to San Francisco and Boston together. It was important to us to live in new and different cities that offered cultural enriching experiences. This not only helped us grow but also helped us gain independence.
Although we wouldn’t change our experiences, we miss our family and looking to settle down. Seems simple enough, right? Not so fast. How in the world are we going to decide where we are going to settle when each of us are from a different country? Perhaps we never can?
Here are the options that are the table right now.
Only about 1 1/2 hours from my hometown, it would be very close to my family. The cost of living is much lower than what we are used to and we are closer to most of our friends. However, this would be farther from Ger’s family and more of a challenge for him to fly home.
In Dublin, Ger would be close to his family and finally back home after 7 years. We could travel easily through Europe which would open up a lot of great experiences. To state the obvious, I would be that much farther from my family and would have to adapt to an entire different lifestyle.
As you know, this is where we currently live. Boston is a great middle ground. It has a lot of history and soul. We love that is it so close to a lot of great cities. The downsides still reside with its high cost of living and lack of both of our families.
We have no idea what we are going to do. We both want to eventually move back “home” but don’t know how to do that.
Do we live in each of our own hometowns for a few years and never feel completely settled because we are constantly moving or do we decide on one place and feel settled but have one of use miss out on having our family close. Going into a marriage it’s definitely something we want to sort out and make sure we are on the same page. It is definitely one challenge of being a “internationally-mixed” couple!
For those of you that are in the same situation, how are you deciding where you are going to live after you get married?