Bachelorette Parties Your Grandma Would Approve Of


More and more I’m hearing of brides who have absolutely no desire for a bachelorette party that consists solely of body shots and male dancers, and I have to agree with them. Personally, all I wanted to do was spend some quality time with close friends, sharing laughs and telling stories. This weekend, I attended a bachelorette party. I had a great time meeting new people and celebrating with the wife-to-be! While we ended the night out on the town, scandalous debauchery wasn’t the goal of the weekend.

Thirteen of us rented out a bed and breakfast for the weekend. Upon arrival Saturday afternoon, we were greeted with lovely welcome bags and a personalized apron for our cooking class at the inn that evening. We had the place to ourselves and after cocktail hour we enjoyed a 2 hour long interactive class where we made appetizers, dinner, and dessert. What a fabulous time chatting, munching, and laughing with some fantastic ladies! So, while we did end up going out for the evening Saturday night, the whole weekend was themed around cooking, not about men in thongs.

{I didn’t get a photo of us, but you get the idea. Photo by Sabina Pierce for The New York Times}

Anyway, this inspired me to gather a couple other ideas for bachelorette parties that won’t make the husband-to-be nervous (well, at least less nervous than he’d be watching you being kidnapped by your bridesmaids, complete with fistfulls of dollars and phallic accessories).

1. Cooking Class: As I mentioned above, a wonderful way to mingle with old and new friends while learning some fun new recipes to cook!

2. Campout: I’m still insanely jealous that there is no desert by my house so that I can set up a teepee and campfire with my friends. How much fun does this look!?




{photos by Erin Hearts Court; invitations by Wiley Valentine; styling by Bash and Yes, Please for Utterly Engaged}

3. Flower Arranging: I’m biased because it’s what we did at my bridal shower, but I absolutely loved it!


{photos by Scott Clark via 100 Layer Cake}

4. Wine Tasting: An afternoon touring vineyards (with a designated bus driver!) is certain to encourage lots of girl talk and good times.

{B-List 2009, photo courtesy of Junebug Weddings}

A pretty moleskine wine journal would make a fantastic favor too!

{journal via The Awesomer}

Bonus points if you get to stomp the grapes yourselves a la Lucy.

{image found via The Carlton}

If one of these is the only thing you and your girls do, or if you decide to still spend some time out on the town afterwards, it’s just nice to know there are many options on how to celebrate. Planning a bachelorette party around something other than Chippendale’s dancers will not only be a blast, but will give you photos you won’t be embarrassed to show your grandmother!

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6 comments on “Bachelorette Parties Your Grandma Would Approve Of

  1. I don’t know how I missed meeting you at Alt Summit, but I’m in the midst of planning a bachelorette party and this gave me tons of great ideas! Excited to read more of your site – Cheers, Erin :)

  2. What adorable photos! The cooking class idea is one of my long-time favorites. Good times, wine, food, and you learn something!

  3. Great suggestions! If my girls would have taken me for booze and male dancers I wouldnt have went to be completely honest! We had sushi and had a girls night – Sushi making class would be a good night!

  4. Wonderful ideas! Thanks for sharing ; )

    I’d like to add another unique idea to the mix. The idea is common place in arabic countries, but is beginning to catch on in the United States as well. A professional belly dancer can bring elegant and fun entertainment to many of life’s celebrations including bridal showers, bachelorette parties, rehearsal dinners and receptions. At the bridal shower or bachelorette party, the bride to be and her friends are treated to a lavishly costumed performance and a belly dance lesson complete with coin hip scarves and a special gift for the bride to be and the party planner. Wedding receptions are perfect for a grand entrance and performance that is sure to have attendees up and ready to dance the night away.

    Always be sure to choose a professional and experienced performer for your celebrations. Research your area’s dancers to ensure that you are engaging a professional. A quick internet search for “(your area) belly dancer” will get you started. Look for video (website based or YouTube) performances to see how a particular dancer comports herself.

    Hiring a professional belly dancer can be the difference between “a lovely affair” to a SPECTACULAR event! What a wonderful way to begin your new life together.

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