Jenna :

I’ll be living in Washington for two months before the wedding, but FI and I will be living in Dallas for the next few years. I know that all of these ladies want to give me fun gifts to open at the bridal shower and the wedding, but really, they are an incredible burden to ship. We are registering …

Becky commented with a gift dilemma.  She says,

My FI and I have decided not to register and we’re not asking for cash gifts either. I know the questions will come flying in as soon as the invitations are received. I know most anyone who calls is not going to accept ‘no gifts’ as a satisfactory answer. If they push for …

Hilary asks:

My question is about alcohol at the reception. We plan on serving four seasonal signature drinks at our wedding. Our wedding is around Christmas, so we wanted to serve more classic, vintage style punches and champagne cocktails. Our ideas include pomegranate sangria, peach bellinis, hot rum punch, and cranberry champagne cocktail). My father insists we serve beer, and claims …

Nicole asks:

We are having a small wedding of only 50 people for close family and friends, however, contemplating having an engagement party – is it rude to invite people to the engagement party that will not be invited to the wedding?

Hi Nicole!  I have a compromise for you.  While it’s not appropriate to invite individuals to any parties prior to …

Alexis commented with a guest list dilemma. She says:

Everywhere I have read, it seems that inviting people without inviting their significant others is a big no-no. We are trying to keep our wedding a small affair (less than 130) based on the fire-marshal code. Plenty of people that I work with have started assuming (and expressing) that they are invited …

Our next dilemma relates to the RSVPs.  J writes to ask:

our RSVP cards didn’t include how many seats we reserved for people…now we are beginning to get them back and we’re not sure how many people our guests are trying to bring. it looks like we’re going to have to make a lot of phone calls after the fact. what’s …

Next up on our list of dilemmas, Amy and her guest list issues. She writes,

My fiance and I are having trouble with our guest list. We want a relatively intimate affair, with people who truly mean something to us, people who have been influential to us as a couple. In other words: no strangers. My immediate family (including my dad) …

This week, A and I will be answering all of your etiquette dilemmas! Don’t forget to leave a comment here if you need a question answered.

JP asks:

Here’s one I’ve been struggling with lately: Is it tacky to list where we’ve registered on our wedding website? Looking forward to your thoughts on this! Thanks!!

We say absolutely not – with two conditions.  1) Only direct guests to …

This week, E and I will be answering all of your etiquette dilemmas! Don’t forget to leave a comment here if you need a question answered.

Our first question, is it ok to tell guests not to use flash photography. Brooke asks:

My BMs think it’s a little bridezilla of me to not want my guests to use flash photography during …