If you know me at all, I’m all about honesty. Just get it out there, say what you’re thinking, let me know what I’m dealing with. It does no one any good to say the “right” thing. So, in keeping with my mantra, I must be completely honest with you all.
I went to a friends house to color my hair back to brunette on Monday. I thought it would be good to have support if my world came tumbling down as my hair turned to dark. Michele, my friend, must know me really well because before I could act out the classic slow motion “NOOOOOOOO” my hair was saturated in bottle brown. We waited the directed 20 minutes, and I then I sadly walked to the shower. I knew what was coming….
I dried my hair, rounded the corner to Michele’s kitchen and all I heard her say was “Well, okay, it’s not that bad.” I was devastated. I felt like an alien. It didn’t come out this beautiful, rich brown, instead, it was sort of ashy blondish, brown; think dirty pond water. I guess my years of bleach had taken a toll. I got in the car and drove home feeling like someone, okay maybe not someone, maybe like my cat Tico had died. I was in mourning.
I got home and made myself a Cape Cod with a little more vodka than usual. (For the record, not a good way to deal with pain.) My husband asked what in the world was wrong with me. I never drink more than about 1/3 of my cocktail. I had to be honest, and said “I hate my hair.” Now he was looking at me like I really was an alien…do women really care that much about their hair to take to the bottle?! In the most sympathetic way possible he said “Why don’t you make an appointment and go tomorrow back to blonde.” The possiblity of a depressed, brunette wife was worth the expensive of going back. I went to bed and had nightmares about Loreal Paris Preference boxes.
Waking up Tuesday morning was a harsh reality. Walking bleary-eyed into the bathroom all I saw was this brown mop on my washed out face. I continued with my usual routine and a funny thing happened when I started putting my make up on….I actually kind of liked the look. Was I really being that dramatic yesterday? Was it really that bad? Either way, the brunette in me was getting a little more comfortable. I felt sexier, more mysterious, like I needed to work in a library by day and a bar by night. Think Angelina Jolie…that’s a stretch, but just humor me.
I have an appointment with my hair stylist Thursday at 9:45. I told her that it was going to be a surprise…I was either going richer, darker or back to good ‘ol bubble gum, simple, fun blonde. She just laughed. I’m kind of thinking though that while I’m here, why not enjoy it a bit. Taking votes, what do you all think?
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Find a compromise.
I recently went from SUPER blonde to more of a dirty blonde. And a quick note- it took a multiple visits for my hair to take the darker color. Make sure you go to someone who knows what they are doing. Don’t try to do it all in one visit and ruin your hair!
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i go with a fairly bright blond in spring and summer, then the stylist goes more golden in the fall, and then darker in the winter. i’m always shocked with the winter look and then end up loving it. so… i vote for getting back to blonde for now and then going brunette in the fall/winter.
GO RICHER AND DARKER!!!! Just go for it! If you don’t like it, you’re going to have to bleach it out to go back blonde whether you’re a light brown or a darker brown. So just go for it!
When I went back to brown, I went to my stylist to do it. She took it really really dark at first (to combat “fading”). It was almost black, I tell you (a little too dark). So I totally understand the whole feeling of looking washed out! (I had to change how I did my makeup, and find what colors looked really good on me. ) But, like you, I really really came to like it!! I was channeling Catherine Zeta Jones. And I still like it!
It’s just a big change. Have your stylist work on making it a little richer and live with it for a month or so. Then if you still don’t like it, you can always go back to blonde.
Don’t forget to show us pictures!!! I’ll look and see if I have any of me as a blonde that I have on my computer – if I do I’ll put up a before and after.