Are Diamonds Forever?
June 24, 2009 · Posted in beautiful things, jewelry, life, mojito maven, newlywed life, relationships by mojito maven
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I have had this conversation with several people and wanted to know your thoughts. I find that people are VERY divided on this topic…
Would you upgrade/change your engagement ring (either in size, shape, clarity, or all of the above) assuming you could pay for the upgrade with cash (i.e. no credit cards or debt) and both parties were O.K. with the decision?
Ponder and discuss.
I understand why some people would want to. I have a few friends who got engaged right out of college and got the best they could afford at the time. Personally, I wouldnt want to “upgrade” mine. Its already a full carat and it fits the size of my hand. It looks big enough on me to fulfill my blingy wants, but it isn’t gaudy and doesnt interfere with life. my husband picked the whole thing all on his own adn its so perfectly scaled and unique, I can’t imagine wanting to change it. But again, I see why some other people would.
If both individuals are fine with it, I see no reason why it would be “wrong” to do so. No, it’s not the same ring that you were proposed to, or the same ring you were married with, but not everyone places sentimental value on the object itself, but rather the idea of it. Getting a different diamond in no way takes away from the memories of proposal and marriage… and it’s still a lovely reminder of your relationship.
While I love my wedding set and my husband paid FAR more for it than I ever would have expected (as in, cost more than his car, and sometimes I think it would have been more practical to buy me a car instead!)… he has mentioned that someday when we have children ready to get married, perhaps we will hand them down my ring and I’ll get a new one. I would be 100% happy with keeping mine, but I do like the idea of passing on a ring (if the offspring would want it) with happy memories to a new couple starting a marriage.
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No way! Maybe I am biased because I really love my wedding set, but in my mind my wedding set is more then just how big the diamond is, it signifies the night we got engaged and the night we got married. That is what I think of every time I look down at my left hand- and no diamond- no matter how big, can replace those memories and having a new ring just wouldn’t feel the same.
But then again….my right hand is definitely a little more materialistic and subscribes to the theory of “the bigger the better.” ;)
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I love my engagement ring. But I don’t see it as the ring that will always be on my left hand. I’d like to upgrade from 1 carat to 2 or 3 and make my current e-ring a right hand ring.
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Nope! It’s absolutely perfect the way it is and fits my personality { and my short stubby hands! } perfectly….and he picked it out all by himself. Now don’t get me wrong, I was quite picky about my band and I’ll be dropping hints until the set is completed with the second one but the e-ring itself holds too much sentimental value to ever upgrade.
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No upgrading for me. I can see why other people might want to, but for me a bigger piece of bling isn’t going to outweigh the sentimentality of my ring. His mom gave him one of her grandmother’s bands and his aunt gave him a diamond. They’re not particularly big or flashy (his grandmother actually said that they shouldn’t give me the band as it wasn’t expensive enough) but they’re the perfect size for my hand.
Oh, and I don’t plan on upgrading my wedding band either. My mom gave me a ring that my dad had given her. They just got divorced but that really doesn’t make a difference to me. They’re still my parents and that ring has a piece of both of them in it.
Well… I think it’s fine to upgrade. I’ve done so once so far, and I expect it’ll happen at least once more before I die. In my opinion, tastes change, and it’s just jewelry. Sure, it’s a symbol of our marriage, but I’d rather have a good marriage AND a ring I love. I loved my emerald in yellow gold to start, but I now prefer silver/white gold/platinum jewelry. Since I don’t like to mix, I figured I’d get a new set. I love my 1.5 carat - it fits me for now. As I mature, I think my hand will have the authority and wisdom to carry a heavier diamond. ;)
Not that I feel there is anything wrong with my ring (i still love it), I would happily take another ring with a ginormous rock if its something I felt we could easily afford.
But I would NEVER exchange my engagement ring. THAT ring is the only engagement ring I’ll (hopefully) ever have or get married in. I don’t understand the trade thing.
