Ring Check
September 9, 2009 · Posted in jenna, newlywed life by jenna
At the wedding I shot on Saturday the DJ leaned over as I was signing the guestbook and asked “When are you getting married?” He inquired, of course, hoping that I was in the middle of wedding planning and looking for someone to provide some music for the big party.
Why would he ask this? Because my left hand still looks like this.
Granted, my plan never involved pairing a band with my engagement ring (because I’m cheap and didn’t want to pay what I knew would be at least $500 for a custom band to match my $850 engagement ring), but I did plan to wear these custom engraved stacking rings on my right hand in a nod to my new Eastern European connections.*
8 months out from the wedding and I hardly ever remember to any of them. As of now my plan is to switch out my engagement ring when I get pregnant for the flat and smooth bands (bought for $100) that won’t run the risk of scratching the baby.
Luckily That Husband doesn’t seem to mind my inability to remember to wear the ring he gifted me last July. Many times I’ve wondered if I would do a better job of wearing it on a regular basis if it had cost more. Not because I would want to show off our “wealth” or “status”, but because it would be such a significant investment that I would want to get the most out of it possible. Do you do that with large purchases? Our latest large purchase was a bread maker. We bought one of the more expensive models, and doing so naturally drives us to want to use it more so we can make the purchase feel worthwhile. Is it so out there to think that the same thought process could apply to my engagement ring as well?
At present, I plan on sticking with my sub-$1000 engagement ring for the rest of my life, although I acknowledge there is a chance that I will start begging for an upgrade in the next 20 years. When that happens, I’ll probably do a better job remembering to wear it, for like the new bread maker, I’ll want to make sure we get our moneys worth out of such a big purchase.
Do you wear your band or engagement ring on a regular basis? Were either of your rings a significant purchase, and do you think you wear them diligently because of this? Do you admit to wearing your rings in part because you think it would please your husband?
*Wedding bands are worn on the right hand in Eastern Europe
I try to wear both my wedding band & engagement ring on a regular basis but find that I prefer to only wear the wedding band. My engagement ring scratches me all the time and I feel bad for not wearing it as often! I think my husband wishes I wore it more often especially since he picked it out and spent the money on it himself. I know he wears his all the time and only takes it off when it might get damaged doing housework. When it came time to spend money on wedding bands, I knew it was going to be a lot of money but we set a budget. For me it was important that we both got rings that were alike and comfortable for both of us because it is important to me that they last forever.
I had my engagement ring and wedding band fused together, but even if I hadn’t done that I’d wear them both every day. I wear them both because they both have strong sentimental value, and I love the way they look together. I was told that the fusing can be undone if I want to wear them separately someday.
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My engagement ring was my great grandmothers. I usually only wear it when I’m dressing up or at church on sunday. It’s really big and the setting sticks out also I am terrified to loose it because it’s such a precious family heirloom. However, my wedding band which we bought for $200 is a really small gold band and I wear that all the time.
I wear mine all the time unless I’m in court or exercising and then I only wear my wedding band (because of swelling / public perception, respectively).
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My engagement ring and wedding band are soldered together, as both have diamonds and if they rub they are more apt to fall out. Also, I’m anal and like the diamonds to match up AT ALL TIMES. :) Yes, I wear my set every day. I generally take if off at home, though, just because I like to rest my head on my hand and it gets in the way.
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My engagement ring was custom made and the same jeweler made my wedding bands to match (I wear one on each side). I love my rings and wear them every day. I only take them off before I go to sleep since my fingers swell at night. The price of an object doesn’t determine how much I wear it, it is more about the style or comfort. I have plenty of things that I wear all the time that were very inexpensive.
i used to wear my wedding band every single day, but when i began doing a lot of crafting i stopped. and then i never think put it back on. i (gasp) find it much more comfortable not to wear my ring.
Oh my goodness! I couldn’t believe it when I saw your engagement ring. Mine is identical! I really wanted something antique because I didn’t want a new diamond and rings from the 1920’s are so unique. Since the setting has a lot of height, I do end up catching things with it fairly often. My wedding ring is a very simple thin band and it works perfectly with my engagement ring. I almost always wear them together since I adore my engagement ring so much. I do take it off if I’m doing something messy though.
I wear my engagement ring every day and will only take it off to do activities that could possibly damage it (i.e. major house work, digging in the garden, etc) and my ring has a lot of meaning for the FH and I—his grandmother’s engagement ring side stones were included on my mine as peek-a-boo diamonds and our birthstones are set as side stones. Originally I had want my wedding band to fit with the e-ring also, but nothing will fit the way I want so I’m going to wear mine on my right hand ring finger. That ring, when we get married, I will never take off.
