I have always known that someday I would have a family and that family would include kids. When I picture myself at sixty-something that picture includes Dan and I helping our kids plan their weddings, having large family holidays, and doing lots of traveling (of course). That said, I haven’t exactly felt a sense of urgency to start that family. While I am sure that my internal clock will get triggered soon enough, right now I am finding myself wanting to make the most of this time where it is just the two of us. We aren’t exactly newlyweds but since when does enjoying just being husband and wife have to be left to the newlyweds and empty-nesters!? Thus the Before Baby List was born.
The Before Baby List has really always been there but since the wedding it has evolved a bit and become much more specific. Early on it was pretty simplistic with things like find life partner, feel financially stable, be successful in career, etc. Now it is filled more specific with things like experience France (check!), run a marathon (check!), go on a spontaneous weekend trip (check!), experience Croatia, figure out if photography is just a hobby, have our place truly feel like home (a challenge when we move annually!), etc. Along with the more seemingly elusive list item of loving my job.
Most of the things on my Before Baby could realistically be done once we have added kids to the equation so it is less about specific to do items. It simply comes down to having this time together as husband and wife before we throw in the addition of being mom and dad. And making sure that I give myself a little time to achieve those things that are just for me before I am ready to become a mom. I fully believe that life is a work in progress and that doesn’t change once you become a mom. I am sure that I will have all kinds of lists with different angles soon enough; for now it is kind of fun to have them all about me or us. And right now I am trying to figure out a way to fit in a vacation to Croatia and to see if I can beat four hours in a marathon before baby makes three.
So who else has or had a Before Baby List? What is your favorite bucket list item that you are working towards right now?